Divorce usually isn’t a pleasant experience for either of the parties involved. While some people might assume that things have to be like the movie War of the Roses, this isn’t the case. It’s possible to work together through mediation to come up with the terms of the split.
One issue that some people find is that their spouse tries to make the divorce as difficult as they can. It’s not always impossible to use mediation in these cases, but it will take some work. Anyone who’s attempting mediation with a combative spouse should remember a few things.
Keep your emotions in check
Divorce is an emotional endeavor. Instead of letting your emotions get the best of you, try to keep them quelled. Sometimes, a spouse will feel more powerful if they know they can get a reaction out of you. Keeping your emotions in check also helps you make good decisions, so try to think logically throughout the mediation process.
Use monitored communication
Try to limit the communication with your spouse to only methods that are monitored. This minimizes the chances of them claiming that you said something you didn’t say. In the mediation proceedings, the neutral mediator can monitor communication during the negotiations.
Mediation is often an effective way to get the terms of a divorce hashed out. Having someone on your side who’s familiar with working with a combative spouse can be beneficial. Remember, you have to do what’s in your best interests now. Your soon-to-be-ex is going to protect themselves, so you need to protect yourself.