People who are going through a uncontested divorce have many things to take care of to untangle their lives from each other. When you have children together, making sure those kids have everything they need must be your priority.
Making sure you don’t succumb to many common misconceptions can help make the process a bit easier. These tips should help you transition from a romantic to a parenting relationship.
Keep things in perspective
Your ex may have been a horrible spouse, but they might be a great parent. Keeping the new relationship dynamic in perspective may help you to adjust better. Pay attention to how your children are faring so you can help them with that, but don’t fall into the trap of trying to use the kids to get information about your ex.
Focus on the children
The needs of the kids have to come first. You should make all custody decisions based on what’s best for the kids. Never make decisions based on what will be more difficult for your ex or easier for you. When contentious issues come up, talk directly to your ex. Don’t try to relay messages through your children.
Getting the parenting plan together as quickly as possible is important because it provides the basis for the child’s stability. Ideally, you and your ex can work as a parenting team to get the plan set. Mediation is often beneficial for this process. In some cases, you may need to seek creative solutions to issues, so having someone familiar with your situation on your side is beneficial.