If you uncontested divorce as parents, it’s typically best if you both continue to share responsibility for raising your children. There are situations where this is not advisable, yet for most divorcing couples and their children, it is.
As you will be working together to bring the kids up, people might refer to you as co-parents. Yet sometimes, the cooperation implicit in that name is hard to come by. You might be divorcing precisely because you cannot work together. Alternatively, the hurt the uncontested divorce causes may make future cooperation incredibly difficult.
In that case, you may need a different tactic
This is where parallel parenting comes in. Rather than cooperating, you allow each other to get on with parenting in their own way. Think about a set of train tracks. They run parallel to each other and arrive at the same place in the end, but they hardly ever meet.
Reducing contact between you reduces the chance of conflict
If you wind each other up, then it is not going to be good for you or your kids. Remember, they have to live within whatever atmosphere exists between you as parents – better a ceasefire than a warzone.
You can do things such as restricting contact to email and using a third party or public place for handovers to reduce the chance an ill-chosen word from one of you sets off an ill-chosen response from the other.
The key is to do whatever works best for your kids overall. Getting help to set up a custody arrangement that works for your family will be crucial to that.